August 4, 2016

Toby in a Box & Autopsy Results

Our Little Man doing his "Boss Mans" face/punim

Dearest Furiends,
We are overwhelmed with hearts of joy by all of the responses to Toby's passing. He is in his heavenly home with his sisters, Gracie and Megan, both who acted more like mamas to him, and many friends that have already crossed over. His earthly tent is now ashes in a box in our living room.

The same day he passed autopsy results were revealed. He did not die of a collapsed trachea (although it was scarred) or of a heart condition. A brain aneurysm ended Toby's life, and it was quick. His dying process was less than five minutes.

The saving grace in our situation is that we have three other babies demanding our love and attention. Life doesn't stop when we lose someone we love. I think we are still in the shock-phase of grief. The first Christmas will be tough, just like the first day without him. That first morning, my dad gave my mother a fourth dog bowl as mom was filling the other three with kibble. He said, "Don't you need to fill up this bowl." Mom said, "Why would I?" Dad remembers that we are down to only three pugs and says, "Oh." Yes, it will take time to heal, but it helps to know we are surrounded in love and not alone in our grief.

God Bless you all,
Mama Mindy


Andrea and the Celestial Kitties said...

Hugs to all of you. The dish thing hit me. Do you know it was over six months after Star's passing that Greg finally removed her treat dish from the feeding area? When I would mention it, he would just look at me and shake his head. I think the only reason he finally did is because a big bowl of water spilled on everything.
Do not feel alone. Aside from your furry family members, you have all of us too. Most of us have been where you are and truly understand the heartache. More hugs and love and purrs

Frankie Furter and Ernie said...

We are relieved to know that Toby's passing was very quick. That is what we all hope our time on THIS side will end like. We know that our Toby Moses is watching over all of YOU and that he is with all the others who have felt the call of the Other Side.
It will take time to adjust. Just hold tightly to the FABULOUS MEMORIES that he left for you.

Two French Bulldogs said...

Our hearts break every time we here of a friend's passing. Sending lots of hugs your way. We know he is right there with you
Lily & Edward

♥♥ The OP Pack ♥♥ said...

So very sorry for your loss. It is never easy, is it? Soft woos and gentle hugs.

Woos - Ciara and Lightning

Idaho PugRanch said...

WE hope it helps to know that Toby Moses did not suffer and we are sure it is comforting to have him home again
hugs and love
Mr Bailey, Hazel & Mabel

Tweedles -- that's me said...

It will take time,,, for all your hearts to heal..
And I do agree,, having him home will helo,,,,,
We circle around you in love

Agnes B. Bullock said...

The bowl is the hardest part for me when the Rainbow Bridge gets a new member. glad that Toby's entrance was quick

You are inour payers

Southern Fried Pugs said...

It's been nearly two years since I lost Isabelle. I still can't change my blog header or my phone wallpaper. She needed meds at night which meant everyone got a bedtime snack. It took months before I stopped giving Tallulah and Petunia that snack. And a few months before I could put away her special food bowls. She ate out of shallow cat dishes because the regular ones were too deep for her. The only thing I did pretty quickly was to give away her leftover medications to pugs in our rescue and turn in her oxygen tank. Those could be useful to someone else.
We all grieve at our own pace. And we grieve differently at different times in our lives for different dogs. You may grieve differently for Toby than you did for Gracie, and that is okay. You and your family are different than you were then. Toby and Gracie were different pugs.
I wish you and your family, two and four legged, peace and comfort.

Sweet Purrfections said...

We're sorry to hear about Toby. We haven't been visiting much lately and we missed his passing. Our thoughts an purrs are with you.

Jans Funny Farm said...

How well we know the empty bowl around here. It's so hard! Hugs.